How many of you dread dating because it’s just boring?

The same superficial conversations and the same awkwardness. It’s dull and it steals the joy out of dating. 

In this article, I give ways for you to add more Fun, Attraction, and Flirting to your dates so that you start having a great time and enjoy the dating experience more!

While you read this, consider that it is just as much about how you express yourself while you are doing these things as it is about the things you are doing with the other person. If you are experiencing dating fatigue, then perhaps check this out, and consider that you won’t be able to be authentically fun and flirty while dating. Do what you need to support yourself before dating. 

Fun

Adding Excitement to Your Dates

Embrace creativity: Break away from conventional date ideas and think outside the box. Consider activities that spark joy and laughter, such as a cooking class, a scenic hike, or a themed movie night at home. The key is to choose activities that both you and your date will enjoy and that allow for genuine interaction and connection.

Share experiences: Engage in activities that create shared experiences and opportunities for bonding. Whether it's trying out a new restaurant, attending a live concert, or exploring a local museum, shared experiences can strengthen your connection and provide meaningful memories to look back on.

Create memories: Focus on creating memorable moments that leave a lasting impression. Capture these moments through photographs, journaling, or simply by being fully present and savoring the experience. Whether it's a spontaneous road trip, a romantic picnic in the park, or a fun-filled day of exploring your city, prioritize creating memories that you can cherish together.

Attraction: 

Identifying What Sparks Your Interest

Reflect on your preferences: Take some time to reflect on the physical and personality traits that attract you to a potential partner. Consider qualities such as kindness, intelligence, sense of humor, and shared interests. By understanding what you find attractive, you can better identify compatible partners and build meaningful connections.

Trust your instincts: Pay attention to your gut feelings and intuition when interacting with potential partners. Notice how you feel in their presence and whether there is a natural chemistry and connection. Trusting your instincts can help guide you towards relationships that are truly fulfilling and compatible.

Be open-minded: Keep an open mind and be receptive to discovering new qualities that you find attractive in others. While it's important to have preferences, being open-minded allows you to explore new connections and potentially discover unexpected sources of attraction. Remember that attraction can manifest in various ways, and being open to diverse experiences can enrich your dating journey.

Flirting: 

Building Chemistry Through Playful Interaction

Women: Very generally speaking…Women seek the feeling of being heard and understood and also feeling secure and safe. And so, flirting with them can look like compliments, intense listening and responding elaborately or taking care of arrangements for dates all while making it seem like it’s your pleasure or it’s no big deal to be doing that for them. When done with authenticity and respect, this can guarantee continued success with them. 

Men: Very generally speaking…Men seek the feeling of being appreciated, accepted and validated. And so, flirting with them can look like words of affirmation, thanking them for specific small and large gestures that you notice about their actions, even when they may have only said something about it in passing. Encouragement, nurturing or even being ok with mistakes or faux pas and laughing them off so that they can feel at ease; especially early off in the relationships. As you do this, they will feel more comfortable showing up for you as their more authentic self. 

Same Gender/Non-Binary: Don’t be afraid to ask what they like and take social cues. For example, if they are dressed to impress, then they may like compliments, so give that to them in an effort to be flirty. You don’t have to guess at anything. Use your ability to flatter them by saying how nervous you are in their presence because you like them and have been looking forward to spending time with them, and so you have to ask their likes and dislikes because you can’t tell. 

Everyone: Read the above paragraphs, we are all the same and the same applies to most people. Try out different ways of flirting and see not only what works for you, but what works on the various people you are dating. 

Be genuine:

Approach flirting with authenticity and sincerity, focusing on expressing your interest in a genuine and lighthearted manner. Avoid using canned lines or artificial gestures and instead, be yourself and let your personality shine through. Genuine flirting is about making the other person feel seen, appreciated, and valued.

Use body language:

Pay attention to nonverbal cues such as eye contact, smiles, and subtle gestures to convey your interest and attraction. Use positive body language to signal your openness and receptiveness to the other person, and mirror their body language to create a sense of connection and rapport. Consider how comfortable you are with your own body and how this may be affecting your ability to truly flirt! 

Practice communication:

Engage in light-hearted banter and meaningful conversation to build rapport and create a sense of connection. Ask open-ended questions, listen actively, and show genuine interest in getting to know the other person. Effective communication is essential for building chemistry and establishing a strong foundation for a successful relationship.

Ultimately, dating should be an enjoyable journey filled with laughter, excitement, and the opportunity to build lasting connections with others. 

If you are having a hard time enjoying dates, it might be time to talk to a dating coach. 

I offer free initial consultations where you leave with new ideas and action steps to improve your dating experience.